Friday, April 13, 2012

Good-bye

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I don't know quite how to start this thought.  But since the point of "Five-Minute Fridays" is to write without backtracking or thinking...I suppose that's ok. 

When I read the word for this week, I immediately thought about how my world has been shrinking.  I don't go out as much.  I've lost touch with some people.  I've grown apart from others.  And most suprisingly, I think I've come to realize that that's ok. 

I used to think that having seasonal (or locational) friends was a bad thing. That it showed a lack of intention and sincerity.  And I spent a lot of time reaching out and trying to squeeze myself as deeply as I could into as many different circles as possible.  (Consequently, I would feel more than a little discouraged every time that it didn't work out.) 

Maybe about a year ago, I decided to just stop trying.  I took a deep breath and just said, "Good-bye."  And I've come to discover the beauty of a small world.  Don't get me wrong.  It's a little bittersweet too.  There are people who I think are amazing, but our paths just don't cross that much.  But that's just life, isn't it? 

I've discovered the refreshing breeze that seasonal friendships bring, and the everyday joys of being close to the people what want to be in my world just as much as I want to be in theirs.

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4 comments:

  1. Lovely thoughts!!!!! I agree :)
    -your cousin, Ashli

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  2. I think that a smaller circle, for me, comes as a result of spiritual growth. It is a good thing!

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  3. I so agree. I've moved enough times that I've learned it's impossible to hold on to every relationship. Occasionally there's a kindred spirit that stays close but usually I thank God for that season's friends and embrace what he has for me in the new season.

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  4. I've found that with many of my locational friendships, we will be completely out of touch for months, then some brief emails, then more months of no contact... and then one of us visits the other, and we so quickly slide back into easy happy supportive friendship! A few days of having that best friend back again, and then back to normal life, knowing that that best friend is still there when you need them.

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